The Lover

The Lover by Nia Forrester, what can I say? I hate this book! Yet, I have to give it all the props because it was so well written. This book is definitely in my top 10, but I could not include it in my list. This book required its on post. I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I started this book. Yes, I did read the blurb. However, it did not describe the book accurately. There should have been all types of trigger warnings. Now, I am going to be just as shady as the book description and not tell you either 🙂. I feel like if I give you a heads up, it will either give too much away or it will have you on pins and needles waiting on that part to come.

So, what is my issue with The Lover? I started my Friday morning very early getting ready to drive to Alabama for the B-Ham Mayhem slingshot competition. I was listening to The Lover as I got ready and it transitioned to the car as I got on the road. Somewhere in Ohio, at about 55% – 60% of the book, something happened. Totally unexpected and it punched me in the nose, and I started crying. I mean I couldn’t get it together. I wasn’t boo-hooing or anything. Just, you know, tears filling the eyes, running down the cheeks. And at that point, I just knew the book was ruined. I was done. I didn’t want to listen to it anymore. I was pissed at Nia because WTF!?!? I felt like she ruined a perfectly good book. I was in the car alternating between crying and cussing. Lol. My issue with this book is tears and emotions.

I don’t think I have read a book this captivating since When Forty Blooms by Jacinta Howard last year. The main female character, Ryann, was all messed up and I related to her a little too much. I feel like when my husband comes along I am probably going to act just like her goofy ass. All wishy washy and shit. Then of course, my husband is going to have to be like Spencer, the main male character, patient, persistent, and understanding. The way Nia Forrester portrayed the realness of their relationship it was like watching a movie. The part where Ryann started her cycle at the restaurant, every woman can relate to that (sorry guys). The familial relationships, the friendships. I mean, just a great fucking book. Except, I did not like the narrator’s voice for Ivy. Had her sounding like a ditz. Ivy is a great supporting character and calls Ryann out on her shit. The best type of friend to have.

I didn’t listening to the book anymore on my drive to Alabama. I wanted to have a great weekend and I wasn’t going to let The Lover ruin it. I did have a great weekend. I saw some tricked out slingshots and rode around Birmingham and enjoy the sights. Tried Jack in the Box for the first time, it was average. The chocolate chip cookie, above average. Used my ScootnGo Scooter and didn’t run over anyone’s toes. Just lived. I did pick the book back up on the drive home. I finished it. The thing that set me off, turned out to be a misunderstanding. It didn’t change my mind, I still hate the book! 😆

Seriously though, I truly did not expect to go on an emotional rollercoaster when I decided to listen to The Lover. I don’t really like that in my books. I am not sure if I would listen to another one of Nia Forrester’s books. Judging from this book alone, she is a damn good author. The purpose of books for me is to live in another space for a few hours. Be entertained, laugh, and roll my eyes at the cheesiness. I don’t like my books close to real life. Judge me if you want, I don’t care. Lol. Maybe I just need to get over myself. Based on Dish Towel Saturday, I obviously need to feel emotions more. I just want to pick and chose when and where. Yes, I know it doesn’t work that way.

I haven’t forgotten about the other 5 of my top 10 books. That blog post will be out on Thursday. I do enjoy sharing these books with you all and I love when someone tells me that they listened to or read the book. Even if you don’t agree with me on how you feel about the book. I am also open to your book suggestions. Please do share them with me. Happy reading! Stay well and whole. Much Love 🧡 💚

P.S. B-Ham Mayhem, Birmingham, AL.

My 2026 Top Ten Books, Pt. 1

I am officially at 177 books completed for this year. I stalled out at the end of last month and didn’t read or listen to any books for about a week. I was tired of hearing people’s voices. Then, I also realized all of the stories were starting to run together. I ended up creating a spreadsheet to keep track of all the books I have read/listen to, and put in a little note to help me remember what the hell I’ve read. Not that the books are bad or boring, but most aren’t standouts. The ones that are really bad end up as Incomplete. Then, there are books that get me to thinking and stay on my mind. I have highlighted them on my spreadsheet. Here is a list of 5 of my 10 top books so far.

The Devils by Joe Abercrombie


This book was so out of my wheelhouse. I can’t even remember how I came across this book and what about it made me want to read it. I guess I wanted to expand to other genres. The Devils was crazy as hell and contained action scene after action scene. It was kind of exhausting. I had to pause it a couple of times just to process some of the scenes. A young girl finds out she is royalty and has to make it home to claim her throne. Throw in some twists and turns and you have a pretty good story.

Inheritance of Magic by Benedict Jacka


Here is another book that is far from my norm. A couple of things first. One, this book is the start of a series. Two, the series isn’t even close to being done. Though I am including this one on my list, I don’t recommend that you read it. Don’t no damn body wants to wait 10 years for this series to be finished. I promise you if I had known, I would have acted like this book didn’t exist.

However, this book is fabulous and pulled me in immediately. The world building, the magic, the main character. There isn’t anything I don’t like about this book. Stephen, the main character, with limited magic ability and knowledge, searching for his missing dad. He grows and learns along the way and you can’t do anything but root for him every step of the way, even when he is obviously slow or doing dumb shit. Deep sigh, I am still annoyed I even started this series.

Love Notes by Christina C. Jones

Love Notes was my first book from this author. I have since gone down the rabbit hole and even joined her newsletter 🤦🏾‍♀️. Christina C. Jones has the market cornered on this brand of romance for me. She writes characters with personality, humor, and genuineness. Of course, there is sex involved, but it doesn’t come off as overdone. Love Notes is about a confident and ambitious young woman moving home to start her photography business and finding love unexpectedly. Well, unexpectedly for her, we knew it was going to happen 😆.

Honorable Mention: Getting Schooled by Christina C. Jones

This book is in a series but can be read alone. So good! The witty banter alone makes this worth the read.

Honey & Spice/Sweet Heat by Bolu Babalola

Technically, this is two books, but they go together. Honey & Spice is the first book covering the college years of the main characters. Sweet Heat picks up a few years later with the same characters. I read the books out of order. I feel like I purposely did not read the first book, Honey & Spice, because it was a Reese’s Book Club Pick. Her book club picks suck! Now, if I see she recommends a book, I avoid it like the plague. Oddly enough, she got it right this time.

Honey & Spice is set in England somewhere featuring British Nigerians. They are so poetic when they speak. Taking 15 words to say a 5 word sentence, but somehow it works. It gives you a clear vision of the topic being discussed and some 😆. The main female character, Kiki Banjo, is so cool and commanding. She meets her match in Malakai, the main male character, and you watch them fall in love as young people do. Dumb as hell, head over heels, and thinking they know everything and don’t know shit.

Sweet Heat picks up later with the same  main characters, Kiki and Malakai, with other supporting characters from Honey & Spice. I can’t say much about this book because I don’t want to give too much away. I will say it was a good follow up to the first book. It was a couple of spots where it dragged, but I still think it was a good book. It is a love story but it does have triggers, such as depression, anxiety, and grief.

The Unlikely Pilgrimage Of Harold Fry

I guess I need to step out of my norm more often, there are some good books with different storylines available. Here is another thought-provoking book that has nothing to do with romance. Harold was so weird and I felt like he was the problem in most of his situations. Harold Fry decided to walk across the country to visit a friend in hospice before they passed away. He had no set plans or ideas of what to do, but he was determined to make that trek and express his gratitude. This book can be a bit heavy, and there are some triggers known and unknown. Yet, I still recommend this book because it had me thinking about all sorts of things.

These books are not in any type of order. I don’t have a favorite between these books or the next five. I just enjoyed each book for what it made me feel and/or think. Have you already read any of these? If so, what are your thoughts? If not, which ones are you going to add to your list? Please share. I want to hear from you. The next 5 book recommendations will be coming soon. Be well and whole. Much Love 🧡 💚

I Am Not Okay

Bonfire at neighborhood Labor Day party. So much fun!

Yesterday, I almost had a breakdown because I couldn’t find a Clorox Handi-Wipe to wash my dishes. I know, it wasn’t that serious. Yet, it was. It was just another thing on top of the other things that happens day to day. Y’all know the saying, “It was the straw that broke the camel’s back”. It was in that moment that I realized, I am not okay. Ughhhh, fuck!

I look at my life and I think that I have it good. I make enough money to take care of myself, I go on trips, and I put gas in my car. I have great friends. I am close to my family. I live in a good neighborhood. On the outside looking in and on the inside looking out, this works. So what’s the problem? The problem is I do not allow myself to feel. I think about all the little shit that has been happening and how I just suck it up and keep it moving. I don’t let it get to me. Yet, it is getting to me. I’m just pushing it down like a jack in the box. Then, one Saturday morning, it pops out.

To be clear, I am okay, but there are times when I am not. Instead of stuffing it down, I need to take the time to feel what I am feeling. Whether it is anger, frustration, disappointment, hopelessness. I am not saying turn into a brat and throw a fit about every little thing that happens. I am saying, when I am frustrated about dropping multiple things, feeling hopeless about the state of the world, mad about another police brutality, and I have to pause and pull it together, I need to sit in that emotion instead. I have to allow myself to feel it and release it. Then, I won’t look or feel crazy for blowing up about a dish towel.

Well, this is my resolution for said event. I am unsure if it is the right solution. I don’t know the protocol for feeling your feelings. How do you normal, emotionally regulated people deal? I am not above suggestions. I am still growing and learning, and boy do I have a lot to learn. Happy Sunday 🌞. Be well and whole. Much Love 🧡 💚