So Saturday I locked myself out of my apartment building for the first time. I was hoping to never do that but there I was early as fuck in the morning standing outside ringing random buzzers hoping one of my neighbors would let me in 🤣🤣🤣. God, why???? I started with the young guy I met Friday when he was moving in. No luck there. Then I realized that the person above me is always up walking around because I can hear them. I don’t sleep well and apparently they don’t either. Bingo baby, buzzzzz and I am in. Now what I didn’t say is I put the tea kettle on before I ran to put the laundry in my car. At this point I know it is whistling loud as hell. Lol. Probably why my neighbor let me in. When I got in, it was screaming at the top of its lungs, if it had lungs. I know everyone was relieved. Hahahaha. I am so awkward. Just thought I would share.
I signed up to receive emails from this young lady named Marie Forleo. She is a motivational/self-help guru. She has a program called B-school to help people make their businesses successful, a book called Everything is Figureoutable, a show called Marie TV and a podcast. I am slightly jealous. Except I am just not that personable or energetic and I don’t feel like faking it. Lol. In one of the emails I received from Marie, it contained a 3 part series called Decade in Review. I seen it and ignored it. Then I realized maybe this would be good for me. So I watched the video for part one. I wrote down the questions while I was at the laundromat. I went and sat on the water to work on answering the questions from part 1. I stalled out on question number 1. The question is, “Over the past 10 years, what are you proud of?” Yeah I wrote down about 4 things and I just couldn’t think of anything else. I wish it was only because I just couldn’t remember back that far. That is not the only reason.
I believe the main reason is because I haven’t done anything. I have just wasted 10 years of my life, from 32 to 42, not doing anything of real importance. Leaving me with less than 5 things to be proud of that I can rattled off easily. What the hell is wrong with me???? Or I guess I should say what the hell was wrong with me? Not because I have done anything of importance since this discovery but because I realize that I cannot in any way, shape or form allow another 10 years, hell another year to pass without changing this. I have been sitting on so many ideas over these past few years that I just never even worked on in any way. Ideas I would have been proud to write down if they had came to fruition. Even if they didn’t work out I could have been proud of at least trying. Smh. Yet I don’t have shit to show for these last 10 years. A few things but not nearly enough.
I have been pretty much lost as to how I was going to approach 2020. I feel as if I don’t set my intentions for this year to come that I will be blown in whatever direction life takes me. Then to get stumped on the first question of the assignment let’s me know that it is imperative that I get it together and set some goals. To have a game plan and ways to execute it. To be aware of all the things I did wrong over the past 10 years and not repeat any of those actions. I am not going to beat myself up. What’s done is done. My friend said his goal is accountability. I guess that is what I am realizing right now. I am taking accountability for my past transgressions against myself and releasing the shame, guilt, frustration and anger. Shit happens, I just have to stop stepping in it. Lol.
So here we are on New Year’s Eve, all hyped up about what the new year will bring. What possibilities lies ahead of us. What are we going to be, what are we going to do? To you I say, do things that make you proud of yourself. Do the things that you have always wanted to do but for some reason…you just didn’t. Do things that make you feel good. It is so important that we as human beings utilize our God given freewill. If you haven’t set your goals for the new year, you still have time. We have a few more hours. And if you still don’t know, make it a point to not let this new year/decade take you places you don’t want to go. Get intentional about this life.
I want the best for everyone. I want everyone to succeed at whatever it is that they want in life. I want each and every one of you to leave 2019 well and whole and to start 2020 off with a sense of peacefulness. Peace with who you have been and what has happened. No matter what you did or did not do over the past 10 years, be proud of yourself. You made it!!! You have kept going despite the difficulties. You are strong, you are powerful beyond even your own realization, you are resilient and you are loved. I love you all.
To my loyal and faithful readers, Thank You. Thank you for continuing to support me all of 2019 even through my midlife crisis. Thank you for subscribing to all my craziness. Thank you for your encouraging words and messages. You don’t know how much it means to me. And I am not good at expressing it because I am emotional stunted. Lol. Seriously, I write for myself but I am happy to know that people connect with me, my words and my stories. You make my heart full.
Here is the link to Marie Forleo’s Decade in Review if you are interested.
Don’t Create A 10-Year Plan Without Doing This Decade In Review
https://www.marieforleo.com/2019/12/decade-in-review-10-year-plan