Savannah, GA
I remember when I used to deliver meals to senior citizens, I met a man on my route. He was a postal carrier. I was in the lobby waiting for my senior to buzz me up and he was putting the mail in the boxes. We spoke and something just clicked. It so happened we had met years ago at a summer program when we were in high school. We exchanged numbers and even dated for a little while. It didn’t last and I’m not sure who was the problem in that equation, I would say both of us. I want that again. Well, not the part where we didn’t work out. The meet cute part. The genuine interaction and chemistry. Does it happening that way anymore?
I have been using the dating app Bumble. For those who have no clue, Bumble is the dating app that allows women to make the first move. The men may swipe right (which means they are interested), but unless you swipe right on him as well, you will not know who is interested. Now for the small price of $34.99 a month, you can see who likes you without having to match with them. Once you match with a man, the woman has 24 hours to reach out and connect. I assume after the 24 hours, the match disappears. As I am writing this, two questions come to mind. One, who makes the first move when it is women seeking women or men seeking men? Second, can a person rematch if they miss the 24 hour window?
I don’t mind being the person to send a message. The issue is I don’t have any game. None at all. I just send a standard Hello. The last guy I matched with unmatched with me after I sent my Hello. I guess he wanted something more 🤷🏾♀️. There was another one I matched with that was a complete waste of time for both of us. I sent a message, he sent one back within the 24 hours and I responded and that was the end of that. I guess I’m not the only one terrible at this.
The first person I matched with seemed perfect. Well, not perfect, but you know what I mean. He was attractive, didn’t want kids and believed in God. He even stated in his bio he was interested in someone to attend church with and pray with. Oh, and he said he liked to grill. I love grilled food and a man that cooks because I’m greedy 😆. We texted back and forth and he had a sense of humor. Another plus. Then, he went MIA for a few days. One of my bad qualities is I ghost people. When I am done, I’m done. And I can take what I dish out. For some odd reason, this time I was annoyed that I was getting ghosted. I know it is nothing less than I deserved, but how dare he?!? So me being me, I texted him and asked him was he ghosting me 🤦🏾♀️. Of course, he denied it. Even got an attitude that I would suggest such a thing. He went on to communicate with me via text for about another week. But here we are, not texting or talking because he was ghosting me! He just didn’t like that I called him out on it.
This shit is so exhausting and I am only 3 matches in. How do people do this? There has to be a better way. I need to figure it out because this shit ain’t it. I’m going to keep pushing through, maybe just not on Bumble. I don’t think any one dating app is better than the other. I have exhausted the men on Bumble and I am tired of them recycling the men. No means No 😂. I am sure I will see some of the same men from Bumble on another dating app. Just a bunch of socially awkward, workaholics with no game, me included.
One day this will all pay off. That day is not coming soon enough though. I’m about to be a golden girl 😆. I guess I’ll just work on staying well and whole while I wait. You stay well and whole too. Much Love 🧡💚