Month: September 2021

I was recently asked, “What inspired you in life?” I was totally lost for an answer. Um…dogs, nature, my niece, my nephew, I don’t know. None of these were the answer because I couldn’t follow it up with an explanation. That was a really tough question. At this point, I had to ask could I answer it on another day.

Later on that day, the answer dropped down in my head. Death. Death inspires me. It makes me want to live before I die. Not just live day to day, but truly live. To have intimate experiences and grand adventures. Death makes me want to be open to love and loving others fully. Death makes me want to be around to see my niece and nephew grow and continue to be the amazing human beings that they are. To laugh and giggle wholeheartedly at anything that tickles me. To be myself because why not? To say what I mean.

Death is inevitable and unavoidable. We do not know when and how we will leave this planet. I know this may be an uncomfortable topic for some people and my intent is not to make you feel uncomfortable. If you are, I am sorry for that. Death enhances my awareness of the importance of Life. So just as Death inspires me so does Life.

Life is waking up in the morning and taking a breath. It is watching the sunrise and the sunset.

Looking up at the night sky seeing the moon and the stars. Life is actually loving and being loved. Witnessing people you love joining hands in matrimony.

Life is experiences and adventures. It is riding ATVs in the Mojave desert and getting dirty.

It is seeing someone being exactly who they are and admiring them for embracing their best self. It is eating your favorite foods.

Life is being in Las Vegas at the same times as a few of your closest friends and meeting for brunch.

It is taking pictures from your airplane window seat.

And later watching airplanes land from your hotel window.

Life is inspiring because you are actually living. You are doing the things that you want to and being the person you are meant to be. The more you experience of Life, the more you want to. Death may give you a sense of urgency but Life gives you a sense of accomplishment.

What inspires you? Have you ever thought about it? I can say until the moment that question was presented to me I never fully explored what my inspirations were. What a thought provoking question! I love it! Feel free to leave a comment below or email me and share what inspires you. I look forward to your responses. Continue to be well and whole. Much love 🧡 💚

Hey everybody! I have been traveling back to back and haven’t really sat down to finish any of the posts I started. Last night on the plane back from Las Vegas, I finished 3 posts 😆. I will be publishing them over the next week. I had to share this first. So here it is.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CT2unColuLp/?utm_medium=copy_link

I am officially going to be published in a magazine!!! I am so excited and I cannot wait for y’all to read my articles. I will still continue to post on this here blog because this is my baby and I can cuss here 😆. My articles in Vivyd Magazine will be a little toned down but absolutely equal to the quality of my posts here. Thank you all for your support and encouragement over the years. Stay well and whole. Much love 🧡 💚

In Money Mind Academy, a course I took last year with Sean Croxton, we were given an exercise to write a letter to ourselves thirty years in the future. It was a slightly challenging exercise because I still didn’t (still dont’t) know what I wanted to be when I grow up. I do know how I want to live and that was the perspective I used when I wrote my letter. I was going through my notebook the other day and came across the letter. It was a pick me up. I have felt a little better since reading it. Yes, of course I’m going to share it. Y’all so nosy 😆. Here it is.

Dear Ebony,

I am not sure if you are at home sitting on the patio listening to the waves or traveling right now. I hope if you are crocheting, you aren’t working on too many projects at once. How many blankets have you made at this point? Hope you have continued to take pictures of them all. I am so jealous of your yarn room.

I envisioned this future. I designed that house, study/yarn room and all. Every time I did my visualization, I saw that view of the ocean. The moon at night. The wonderful husband that cooks. The love, respect, care and consideration between you and him. Though I was single and just opening my heart to love, I knew it was possible. I read relationship books. Learned things about myself . The things I needed to work on, the things that I loved. I grew to love myself with each new discovery and change that I made to be a better me. I watched seminars and attended courses to learn how to let abundance into my life. To get rid of my limiting beliefs. Based on a book I read in book club, I started to diligently set aside 10% of my income. I even gathered as many loose $1 as I could spare and put them in my house fund along with coins in my piggy bank.

I prayed for you. I prayed you would find your purpose. That you would be fulfilled and at the same time, serve others. That one of the main thoughts in your head would be the flame to spark the life that I wanted for you. I am so happy my prayers were answered. To see you now brings me so much joy. I am glad that I pushed through. That I made the necessary changes. That I believed  in myself. That I stopped letting other’s thoughts and opinions matter. That I got rid of limiting beliefs.

The journey I purposefully started at 42 years old was meant to get you where you are at 72 years old. We did it!

When I first read it, I thought I wouldn’t change a thing. Now, after typing it out in this post, I feel like so much is missing. I didn’t include the places I would traveling. I left out the activities my husband and I would experience together. I said nothing about the book I am writing and how it was received. No mention of the dogs I plan to have. Though the letter is beautifully written, I think I left it a little too generic. It makes sense why I wrote the letter that way. I was just getting to know myself a little better. Knowing myself even more, I want to write a new letter and date it for 5 years from now. Put it more into a short term perspective and I won’t have to wait 30 years to read it 😆.

Have you ever written a letter to your future self? If so, have you gone back and read it? I encourage you to do this exercise. It can get you to thinking about what you want to be true for your future. And hopefully set you on a plan of action to get there (more on this in the next post). Also, it will be great to read 10, 20 or thirty years later. To see what happened, what didn’t and what changed in your vision for your future self. No matter what you envision for future you, I hope that it includes being well and whole. Much love 🧡 💚.