“I Choose Me.” I heard this in an affirmation on the Sincerely Her podcast, Note 225 and it resonated with me. Then I seen it in an email from Keys Soulcare by Alicia Keys. I was like okay this is important. In Monday Mastermind, we talked about not losing the ground we have gained from being in a pandemic. When the world opens back up, how do we continue to keep ourselves and our goals a priority?
The answer is choosing you. The best way to choose yourself is to set boundaries and stick to them. I know it’s hard. Life pulls us in so many different directions. Kids, husband, parents, friends, work, school, unexpected events, planned events. So many damn things to do. It seems like we can’t get a moment for ourselves. Our goals. We have to put our foot down and make our declarations known. How can someone respect your boundaries if you don’t communicate what they are?
“Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as necessary in order to avoid disappointing yourself.” – Glennon Doyle, “Untamed”
I am going to disappoint a lot of people as I continue to grow and choose me. And I am okay with that. If they aren’t, that is their problem. Ladies, we have to stop compromising ourselves for the comfort of others. I know we are grateful to our parents for raising us and making sure we made it to adulthood, but we can’t live the lives they want us to live. We have to live the life that makes us happy. Ladies, I know you want to give your kids the world, but don’t forget you are a person with needs too. Give to yourself as well.
Who can you disappoint in order to not disappoint yourself? When are you going to set your boundaries? Who needs to know where the line is so they don’t cross it? Let’s make being well and whole a priority. It starts with choosing you. Much love 🧡💚